We take it for granted that we learn thinking in school and do not think just because we have a head, we can think – we go to school to learn it – so why do we not do the same things with emotions? Just because we have feelings or an emotional brain, we do not know how to use it, if we don’t learn how.
Our everyday life, our jobs, everywhere we are in relationships. We are relational beings. In traditional society, we learned roles to play, but with the beginning of modern times, we got more and more individualized. The same way we learned roles, we need to learn to be ourselves. Learning to have a relationship with ourselves to get in a relationship with others. Therefore you need to know your needs and that you get through feeling.
Traumas are still a taboo area in society, although almost everybody faces it at some point in life. Either it is the loss of a parent, a divorce, the loss of a job, addiction, etc. And even if we haven’t experienced trauma ourselves, through past generations and what they lived, it can have imprints on our life.
Still, being in good contact with your feelings and needs is the basis of a healthy relationship – personal and in your job. But learning how to feel is not only important for “social relationships” or “social matters”, but can also be helpful in economies, medicine, politics, etc. It is about combining your thinking knowledge with your feeling knowledge, and then let them work together hand in hand by cultivating heart qualities.
We already know that we have not only a head to think, but also other brains, one in the heart and the other in the gut – so why do not use them systematically?
E.g. If you do not get more knowledge or solutions from your head, you learn how to work with your heart and feeling intelligence – in all areas of life and business – and become a full human being.
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Some cultures have more cultivated their “feeling intelligence” than others. In general, Eastern and Mediterranean cultures are better equipped with emotional intelligence and feel instead of think. The Western World is mainly focused and trained the intellectual mind and feels superior to other cultures. Recognizing both, feeling intelligence and intellectual intelligent, will help us better understand each other. The feeling intelligence thinks different than the intellectual intelligence, and you can some time see this also between men and women 😉
As the whole education system is assuming everything can be taught through the intellect and training the mind, also Ethics lack the understanding, that we can only live what we have in our Emotional Body. But already, the Ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle made it clear that ethics have an intellectual AND emotional approach. While the first one is learned through the mind, the second one needs is experienced through our emotional body and cultivation of Heart Qualities.
Especially Western Societies think that justice can be maintained by implementing law and order, but they lack to understand, that there are also emotional ethics based on instincts as indigenous societies used to live …
As with the collective acknowledging of cognitive intelligence, people like empaths and highly emotional intelligent people fail to be acknowledged for their worth and abilities society needs.
By implementing “Emotional Education” in the education system we start truly equalize different abilities, which will also bring social justice.
Emotional Education can easily be implemented in the current education system in the different countries and be adjusted depending on cultural needs and the current education system.
From Kindergarten until University Level
While philosophy and science are generally male and masculine-orientated, although more women are running around there lately, it still misses the feminine approach to knowledge. Diotima was mentioned in the book “The Great Dialogues” of Plato and Socrates. Both philosophers spoke highly about her understanding which they couldn’t access with their masculine access to knowledge. Diotima is not famous and is not as well known as other philosophers. But this feminine access to knowledge goes through feeling intelligence and needs to be learned to acknowledge the feminine in this world entirely.